We are the only species that has free will. That is why we never see a tree hit a car. But that self will can cause us to do things and behave in ways that will only harm ourselves. Self will makes us an island and we are isolated and alone.
It is a personal decision and without it we are stuck at step 2. The main issues are in our mind and we need to be willing to change our minds. This is a personal journey because we cannot force our will in others.